Please Help Molly Get a Baby Brother

I feel that because Molly is a single child of a single mother, she needs at least one sibling to grow up with.  I had always thought I'd be a stay-at-home mom to 3 kids, with a lovely husband and a picket fence, etc.  Things didn't turn out that way, so I decided to start with just one baby first.

Check.  Now that I have Molly, and I'm aware of how long it takes for adoptions to complete, it's time to start the next one.  My experience at the orphanage taught me that I can handle more than one child!

So while I'm off work this year with Molly, I'm looking for some creative ways to earn funds to pay for the next adoption.  I have attached a couple of links to the side-bar of my blog for some useful baby items.

Robeez is a company that was started by a mom here in Burnaby who sewed a better shoe for her own son, then grew a company with it, and eventually sold it to a multi-national corporation.  The shoes are a good and very popular product.  They have a new Eco Collection, they will gift-wrap and direct ship a gift for a small fee, and right now they have an offer of free shipping for orders of two or more pairs of shoes.

Dimpleskins Naturals is a local company based in New Westminster.  It was also started by a mom who made natural products for her daughter.  The Bum Bum Balm is the diaper salve I use for Molly.  It is handmade with high quality ingredients, and contains no chemicals, toxins or fragrances.  It is also made without zinc, which plugs up the absorbency of Molly's cloth diapers.  There is a full line of personal care products for the whole family and a wonderful Baby Bundle Gift Set.  Plus, all their packaging is is recyclable.

So please think of Molly's little brother when shopping for your kids, or choosing gifts for other families.  If you purchase any of the Robeez shoes or Dimpleskins Natural products through the link on my side-bar, I will receive a commission, which will go towards the adoption fund.

Molly thanks you, and so do I!

Memories of Mui Ne (April 23 - 25)

Back in the days when we were stuck in Ba Ria, a long weekend was approaching, and Loan invited Molly and I to join her and her friends at a beach resort in Mui Ne for a couple of days.  I hesitated, just because I am Loan's work, and this was a personal holiday for her, but it didn't take much convincing.  Mui Ne!  I had heard lots about how beautiful it is, and it was only a 3 hour drive up the coast.

My hotel owner arranged a car and driver for me, and we met Loan and her friends there.  There were a couple of families with young children, so Molly and I fit right in.

We stayed at the Sand Garden Resort, which was across the street from the beach, but had a really lovely pool and restaurant.

Our hotel room

Our bathroom was outdoors, and had a garden growing in it

Nice open-air restaurant

We spent an afternoon at the beach.  Just look at the views!

The resorts down the beach from us

My feet in the South China Sea

Playing in the surf

Mui Ne is also known for its sand dunes.  We passed by the red sand dunes that were crowded with tourists, and drove a ways up the coast to some white sand dunes beside a lake.  We got there just before sundown.

  Gorgeous!

The rest of the time we chilled by the pool and throughly enjoyed ourselves

This is what Molly thought about being beside the pool, instead of in it!

Thank you Loan and friends for wonderful memories

Molly and Friends

Molly and I have been getting outside to play as often as we can:

In the sandbox with Nhan

In the sandbox with Quan

Playing on the swings with Uncle Ron

Picnic in Victoria with Aunty Lesia and Mylan

Feeding Cheerios to Uncle Nathan

Playing on the slides with Ninh

Making bubbles with Ninh

Sliding through the tunnel

Peeking through the circles

Loving the swings!

Happy Canada Day!

Today is a significant day for my baby, and many of her friends.  Happy Canada Day to all the new Canadian citizens and landed immigrants welcomed home in the past year.  We have so much to celebrate.

Salt, Coffee and Green Mango Juice

1. I have seen salt flats in the Ba Ria, Long Hai and Vung Tau area. Salt gets spread out on the side of the road to dry the same way rice does. It also gets piled up in small triangular mountains in the flats when it is harvested. The nannies taught me to eat watermelon and papaya with salt. I would have never bought salt in Vietnam, but Nathan and Merel did, and left their bag with me when they went home. 

The salt in Vietnam is very good! It has flavor, minerally sharp flavor. It makes food taste way better. I brought Nathan and Merel's bag home with me.

2. The coffee in Vietnam is soooooo good! It's the best coffee I have ever tasted. The Vietnamese like their coffee strong and sweet, just like I do. It's rich and chocolatey. Even coffee in a can tastes good there! The very first morning Susan and I were there, I went down for breakfast to the open air restaurant beside the pool at the Somerset, and ordered coffee. I expected a traditional Vietnamse iced coffee, but I got something like an americano. I took a sip, and was in heaven! It was sooooo good! You just can't go wrong. In Ba Ria, there was a coffee shop across the street from the orphange. They made great coffee, and sometimes they delivered.

I brought many pounds of coffee home with me.

3. I love mango juice. I kept saying that when I went to Vietnam I was going to drink gallons of mango juice. So, in the first week, I went to a restaurant for lunch and ordered mango juice but I got green mango juice instead. Tart, sweet, very refreshing! Ah, then I couldn't get enough. In Vung Tau, there is a cafe a block away from my hotel that served it. I took Molly out for a walk in the stroller in the evenings and we would stop for a mango juice. She ate the ice cubes, and I drank the juice. It's good.

I couldn't bring green mango juice home in my suitcase. :(

These are 3 things I'm going to miss from Vietnam.

Post Scabies Infantile Acropustulosis

Molly is suffering from infantile acropustulosis right now.  This is a secondary condition that develops after scabies have been treated.  She has broken out in itchy red patches with a pimple in the middle, and it looks very much like a scabies bite.

This secondary condition is often mis-diagnosed, and many doctors are not familiar with it.  It is a cyclical condition, and Molly could have flare-ups that come and go for years, although it could also disappear earlier - we will just have to wait and see.  There isn't much we can do to prevent flare-ups either. They heal on their own, and I can only try and give relief from the itching and prevent her from scratching.  Her sharp little fingernails tend to draw blood.

The Women Who Have Loved Molly

I have had a unique opportunity to get to know the nannies and other teachers who have raised Molly since she arrived at the orphanage. I wonder about these women. Who cares for their children when they are caring for ours? The nannies shifts are 24 hours, one day on, one day off, and I never saw a variation for holidays or illness. There are only 4 full time nannies, two per shift, and two other women who work part-time in the baby room. Communications with these women were the usual gesturing and looking up words in the Vietnamese/English dictionary, but I think they got a kick out of having me there. Plus, I helped out a little bit and brought watermelons to share.

I learned that these women love the children they care for. I watched 6 children leave with their adoptive Canadian parents, and saw tears in the nannies' eyes. They continued to ask me about the children afterwards, knowing that I was in contact with some of the parents (who are all from Canada). The day that one little boy left, the adoption ceremony was scheduled that same morning, so his departure was sudden, and two of the nannies didn't have a chance to say goodbye. So they made arrangements to travel to Ho Chi Minh City where he was staying to visit and say goodbye. I saw love in their care of the children everyday.

Khuyen

I got to know Khuyen a little bit - she invited us to her home one afternoon. She lives in a lovely house with land around it where she raises orchids and has fruit trees. She has two daughters, and her mother lives next door. It seems like she has worked at that job for many years - she has pictures of adoptive families on her coffee table with older children she said she raised. She gets to work by motorcycle, which is pretty common there, and took Molly and I home to our hotel many times on the back of her bike. She showed me that I could toilet train Molly by taking holding her under the thighs over a toilet, and hissing. Molly pees when you do that. One day she even shocked me by pooping! Thank-you Khuyen.

Hanh

Hanh was the women holding Molly in her proposal pictures. I was really happy to meet her. Hanh lives at the orphanage, and does other work on the days she is not in the baby room. Hanh is gentle and patient. She often waved me away from a crying, struggling Molly, and sung lullabies while rocking the crib, and put Molly to sleep for her naps during the day. Hanh would bring me lunch and make sure I got a nap when Molly was sleeping. She often surprised me with her knowledge of English. One day she gave me a dress for Molly and told me it was a 'souvenir'. Who would know that word? She always told me I was 'Mother', and I told her Molly had many mothers, including her. She also said one day, "Never forget me".  Molly and I will always remember Hanh.

Hoang

Hoang worked the same shift as Khuyen, and the two women were lots of fun together. I really enjoyed my days with them. They often joked with each other, so there was lots of laughter and lightness on those days. She is very pretty, kind and loving.

Son

Son was the nanny that commanded the most respect from the kids, and the toddlers tended to turn to her for approval. She accepted no nonsense, but had a really soft spot that shone often with the children. She worked with Hanh, and they were a good team, as Hanh was the gentle comforting one, while Son was the diciplinarian. Son taught me the 'ropes' when I first arrived. She had no problem showing me how to help out with the children, but curiously wouldn't allow me to help hang or fold laundry. She arrived for work on a bicycle, and would bring me bananas. She was very curious about me - she inspected my white skin, and poked at a blood blister I have on my leg. I tried to hug her once, but it felt a litle awkward.

Hieu

Hieu is a very pretty younger woman that came into the baby room for a few hours in the afternoon during nap time. I really don't know much about her, but could see that she was very loving and gentle. She brought snacks that she shared with us, and would go out to get a watermelon if I didn't already have one. She would nap at the end of her shift - generally with a child tucked beside her.

Van

Van also lived at the orphanage, and I generally saw her cleaning and gardening. She would come into the baby room for short periods of time to help out. She gave me a lecture in the beginning about holding Molly too much. She chattered on in Vietnamese, which I couldn't understand, but I got the message. However, I wasn't too offended - I think she was right.

Thuy

Thuy said her title at the orphanage was a teacher, but it seemed to me that she ran the place. She became my best friend there. She made lots of effort to communicate with me in English, and took very good care of me and Molly both. Molly loved her! I could have resented Thuy for the way Molly would dump me and whine until Thuy picked her up, every single time she showed up, but I loved Thuy about as much. She would show up at my hotel in the evenings with food, knowing I couldn't get out for dinner. She took us to her home, and to Long Hai beach (another posting) one weekend on the back of her motorbike. She would bring in food to the orphanage for breakfast and sometimes lunch for me. She visited the baby room often, and clipped Molly's nails for me. She taught me a lot of Vietnamese. She is lovely and kind and will always be a friend.

Canh

Canh is another teacher at the orphanage. She is a really pleasant and kind woman who always had a smile for us. She also brought me bananas from her tree, and was often part of the conversation in the afternoon 'Vietnamese lessons'. Canh and Thuy showed up at my hotel room one evening on a day that I was sick. I guess they thought they would help me out for the evening with Molly. However, they found that my symptoms were mild, and I had just bathed and dressed Molly in her pajamas. So instead, they suggested we all go out for a bowl of Pho soup! So off we went - Molly and I on the back of Thuy's motorbike, down this narrow street that I would have thought was a back alley. They took me to an outdoor cantina-style Pho house that was jumping with activity. Thuy and Canh held Molly while I ate, and they wouldn't let me pay the bill. I have pictures of Molly in her pajamas at the restaurant with the two of them. Its a great story to tell her when she's older.